A Message from Kate Forer

 Friends,

 As promised last week, I am happily giving my Friday Extra over to Kate Forer, to introduce herself and her ministry to you a bit more. 

Happy reading! 

Mark of St. Mark

What the heck is spiritual direction? ...You might be wondering….

In response, let me ask you a few questions:

When was the last time you sat down and honestly talked to someone about your relationship with God? 

About the state of your soul?

About ways to go deeper - to grow more fully into the person God has created you to be?

About what gets in the way, for you, of being your full, true self?

If you have someone with whom you have such honest and open conversations, then that is wonderful. But most of us don’t. And many of us have never even thought to ask those questions in the first place. 

Spiritual direction is an ancient Christian practice that allows an individual to explore their spiritual life with a seasoned companion. So much of our life is lived busily on the surface - we go to our jobs, we take care of our children or our parents, we try to find time for friends and recreation - and often the deeper questions of the heart are left unattended. Spiritual Direction is a chance to attend to these matters, to fully engage in one's life, to discern how the Spirit is moving and calling. 

A few months ago I let Pastor Mark know that I was starting a spiritual direction practice (something I had dreamed of doing when I left full-time local church ministry. Just a quick aside: being a full-time senior pastor, as I was, does not leave enough time and space for these kinds of conversations with congregants - not when you have close to 300 of them). Mark quickly asked if I was interested in having office space at St. Mark. “YES!” I responded. I have been attending St. Mark off and on for several years now, and the idea of being planted within such a wonderful congregation seemed like a dream come true. 

And so here I am! I am meeting people one-on-one in my office for such conversations as mentioned above. I am looking forward to working with the St. Mark staff at some point to plan retreats (something I have done for many years and for which I have a real passion) and I’m hoping to be more involved in this lovely community. 

From two decades of pastoring, I know how hard church communities like St. Mark work. I know you are busy with your commissions and your service work - not to mention careers, kids, parents, etc. To do the work of being God’s hands and feet in the world we all need times to replenish and nurture the soul. Remember, even Jesus escaped crowds to spend time with God. I hope that I can offer a sense of nourishment and encouragement as you continue your profound work of loving and serving this broken world.

If you’d like to learn more about working with me, I invite you to visit my website: https://www.thetendedpath.org/

You can also always email me at kate@stmarkpresbyterian.org if you have any questions or suggestions.

I am so very happy (and grateful!) to be a part of you!

Blessings,

Kate 

Catching Up, pt. 3

 Friends,  

For the last two weeks, I’ve been updating you on things that are happening here at St. Mark. Today, I want to share some news and then encourage you to consider something. 

 

First, the news. Many of you have commented on how much you appreciate Kate Forer, who has preached for us on two occasions and has been part of our worship leadership on other occasions. I mentioned some time ago that Kate has initiated a new ministry as a Spiritual Director, which I will invite for her to describe for us in more detail in next week’s Extra. On Tuesday, our Session has voted to offer Kate an office on our campus for her practice and in return she will become part of our staff. As such, Kate will participate in our worship services, help with our 20-30 Something Young Adult group, and offer opportunities for introductory consultations with anyone interested in the work of Spiritual Direction. Kate also has a passion for leading retreats and is open to doing so with us. I am very excited about this door that is opening for us. In some ways, I feel like our staff is taking shape in a beautiful way. 

 

With Kate working alongside of Ann Scott, our Parish Nurse, and Gretchen Carrilo, our Parish Counselor, we have a very strong team of holistic care of the body, mind, and spirit. While it is never possible, or even desirable, to fully separate the body, mind, and spirit, at times we tend to them separately and at times jointly. Anyone who has dealt with high blood pressure knows that the physical expression of our circulatory system can indicate a high degree of stress. We may take a pill to address the physical symptom and speak with a therapist to address the stress. The two actions are not exclusive, but complementary, because our circulatory, lymphatic, cardiovascular, and respiratory systems are not fully separable from our emotions, hopes, will, fears, and desires. Whether we need to name it, sleep on it, or pray about it, our trio of Parish Nurse, Parish Counselor, and Spiritual Director can provide resources and encouragement. Thanks be to God.   

 

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Now, the consideration. In worship, you have heard about our plans for an Intergenerational summer camp, August 10-14, called MARC: Music, Art, Rhythm, and Community. I believe this is going to be a marvelous week. We are planning ways for the young and the young at heart to work together for a week of learning, community, play, and worship. Have you ever wanted to ring bells, but don’t read music? We will learn how. Have you ever wondered why we call a room “The Bonhoeffer Room?” We will explore Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s life together. Have you ever sat in our Memorial Garden and wondered who this or that person was, whose name is engraved in one of the shutters? We will spend some time there and explore what it means to be part of the community of saints. And did you know that of the nearly one hundred varieties of lilies in the world (the genus Lilium), about twenty are native to California? We will “consider the lilies” during this week. All these explorations will be intentionally intergenerational, providing opportunities for young and young at heart to learn together. 

 

I encourage you to consider being part of our Summer MARC. You can contact SueJeanne Koh here for more information or to indicate your interest in helping. It has been a while since we have had a week-long summer event, so we don’t have either “the usual suspects” or “the usual process” to lean on. And I say that approvingly. This is a new opportunity, and I hope you will consider being a part of it. 

 

See you in worship,

Mark of St. Mark

 

Catching Up, pt. 2

 Last week I shared some of the things that are happening in our church life, with the promise to add more. This week we have some news from our Mission Commission. I will describe our Mission Commission first, then share the news. 

 Our Mission Commission “initiates, guides, and oversees the missional involvement of the church with regard to both local and broader mission relationships.” The Commission also “oversees the allocation of St. Mark’s mission spending.” This year, our elders designated $155,000 for the Mission Commission to allocate. $60,000 goes to the General Mission of the Presbyterian Church (USA); $30,000 goes to our Deacons; and $5,000 to our Peace and Justice Commission. The Commission then allocates the other $60,000 based on ongoing missional partnerships and specific opportunities to serve that arise. A good portion of those funds are left unallocated until the latter part of the year, in case there is a disaster or emergency that needs immediate attention (and there often is). Over the last few years, the Commission has tried to focus on deepening the relationships we have with our mission partners and maximizing the impact that our spending has on those in need. 

 

This month, we chose to fund a “50 for 50” campaign through Orange County United Way.  

 

Since its inception nine years ago, I have served on the Leadership Council and Executive Committee of United to End Homelessness, an arm of the United Way. Homelessness continues to be one of Orange County’s largest challenges, driven mostly by the lack of affordable housing in our area. Last year, 72% of people living in homeless shelters completed the application requirements to qualify for housing, but only 1 in 12 were able to obtain housing because of the lack of units available. Working with public and private groups like the Apartment Association of Orange County and the Orange County Continuum of Care leaders, United to End Homelessness is a leading voice in the county for housing justice.  

 

Among the houseless persons in our county, there are some identifiable groups: Seniors; Transitional Age Youth (who have aged out of foster care); and Veterans are the most common. The needs for each of these groups are different and the potential resources for them are also. This year Orange County United Way has initiated a “50 for 50” campaign, with the goal of encouraging 50 community leaders to house 50 Veteran households and provide a full year of support to ensure stability. For $25,000, the campaign will offer landlords incentives, such as deposits, holding fees, and risk mitigation funds; and offer Veterans housing navigation, furniture, and twelve months of case management with wraparound support services. Once the Veteran is housed securely, their case managers can help them secure additional avenues of support that will ensure that they stay housed. The one-time donation of $25,000 will get a houseless Veteran over the initial hurdle of securing housing. You can read more about it here. This month, St. Mark joined the campaign with a $25,000 donation. 

 

As far as I know, we are the first faith community to join this campaign and now I am using this action to encourage other faith communities to imagine ways of taking part. I also want to encourage you to consider if you should become part of the “50 for 50” campaign, either as an individual or within a charitable group that you are part of. If you have any interest in doing so or want to learn more, please let me know.  

 

There are so many needs and so many worthy organizations trying to meet those needs in our area and throughout the world. I appreciate how our Mission Commission endeavors to match our resources with those needs in ways that reflect our commitments to justice and compassion. 

 

See you in worship, 
Mark of St. Mark

 

Catching Up, pt.1

 Friends, 

 

Last weekend, we welcomed five new members into our church family and this weekend we will welcome four more. What a joy it is to welcome new members into our church. They bring gifts, wisdom, and curiosity. They have come to us by dint of God’s grace and calling, so now when we say, “St. Mark” we are speaking of them as well as those members who have been here for many years. What joy.

 

This week and next, I will lift up on a few things that are happening in our church life. 

 

We re-started our Brew Theology gatherings this week after a brief interlude, with a robust group and an engaging conversation around “My story, our story, God’s story.” 

 

Our Sunday morning worship continues to be powerful and meaningful, particularly with the music ministry under Ryan Yoder’s leadership and with Alicia Adams’ accompaniment. In addition, Debbie Fetterhoff and Alexei Rehorn have been leading our beautiful Handbell Ensemble. We always welcome new voices and ringers, so please feel free to contact the church office if you are interested in sharing your gifts. 

 

On Saturdays, our worship is very similar in its content but has a different vibe in its form. We have a smaller ensemble of musicians and singers, who show up faithfully each week to empower the music and liturgy with Ron Levy as our pianist and music director. Our “Life Together” gatherings and occasional “Meet Me at Muldoon’s” events (this Saturday!) have made this gathering more intimate and welcoming. 

 

Our Preschool is also doing exceptionally well. Under the excellent direction of Monica Heredia and Noemi Carrillo, we are operating at full capacity, offering tremendous opportunities for families and children to engage together in a wholistic, compassionate approach to early education. Our Governing Commission (5 church members with the director) and Parent Advisory Council (which also includes church members with parents) are doing great work are always exploring other ways of building our relationships. 

 

Another exciting thing that is happening these days is our exploration, with students at Cal-Poly, of ways to enhance and maintain our property. We love our canyon and our Facilities Commission have recently added Monarch butterfly habitats in its apron. Now, we are looking at more ways to lower fire risks, as well as ways to enhance the grounds surrounding the preschool. The process is early yet, but it has been wonderful to see landscape architectural students in conversation with our Facilities Commission about our commitment to environmental sustainability. 

 

There’s too much more to share, more to celebrate, and more to say, but for now I will just encourage you to read our 2025 Annual report and marvel at how faithful God has been among us as how faithful so many of our members have been in response. It is a joy to serve here.

 

See you in worship,

Mark of St. Mark

Flipping Tables That Need Flipping

Today is Good Friday, the difficult day of Holy Week when the betrayal, arrest, abandonment, trial, condemnation, torture, and crucifixion of Jesus result in his death. I know it is difficult for many of you to make your way to a Maundy Thursday or Good Friday worship service; and we were unable to stream last night’s Maundy Thursday service for a variety of reasons, so for today’s entry I want to send my reflection from last night. Then, at the bottom, is an invitation for you.

Throughout this season, we have tried to follow Jesus’ work of turning over tables. It is holy work. It is necessary work. It is the kind of work that has been needed throughout human history. Tables have often been places of exclusion, where some are welcome and others are forbidden; with clear demarcations between the servants and the served. Tables have often been lavishly plated for some, while others go hungry. Tables have often been places where decisions are made by the few and powerful, while the effects of those decisions have been devastating for those who are not at the table. Tables have often been a great prop for those who would pound it in order to exercise the implied violence behind their authority. The table is the tableau that shows who is who in our world. In that sense, we can say, “Come quickly, Lord Jesus, and lead us, because so many tables in our world need overturning.”   

 

When we think of turning over tables, we think of that story when Jesus brought havoc to the temple court, but throughout his life Jesus demonstrated many ways of overturning tables. Jesus had the gall to sit publicly at a table with notorious sinners. He ate with them; drank with them; laughed with them; loved them, while the sanctimonious and proper folk stood apart and criticized him. Jesus let a woman, a woman of ill-repute as everyone knew, wash his feet while at a table, and even broke all the customs by declaring her clean. Jesus sat at a table with a diminutive chief tax collector and all of his tax collector buddies, much to the chagrin of the pursed-lipped religious folk. And, of course, Jesus overturned the tables on this night when he wrapped himself in a towel – a “tool belt for washing feet” – and served each of his disciples, one by one. When the Lord becomes the servant, the tables are turned.  Time after time, Jesus overturns everything we have been taught to think about tables as showing who is who in our world. 

 

And that is what makes our invitation to this table tonight so intriguing. For those who have bought into the culture of hubris, where we are here to be served and not to serve, who have bought into notions of success, notions of privilege, notions of who belongs among us and who does not – those are the notions of people who sneered at Jesus’ table, not those who joined it. When we have been trained in the culture of hubris, all of our presumptions get overturned at this table. 

 

And when we have been told that we do not belong at this table, that we are not good enough, not holy enough, no clean enough, not straight enough, not white enough, not male enough, not housed enough, or simply not enough – those assumptions are also overturned at this table. This is where betrayers, abandoners, deniers, fearers, and failures are treated as honored guests. Even in this last meal, as Jesus dons himself with a towel and washes each person’s feet, he was overturning tables. As we come forward to be part of the Lord’s Supper, we come to the table of overturning. 

Mark of St. Mark

Flipping Tables; Setting Tables

 Our Lenten Journey Continues 

I have a friend who has recently decided to throw off the gloves and start bare-knuckling evil wherever it may be found. I get it. There really is a lot of evil and it often feels that the quiet, steady work of suasion and service is getting us nowhere. At some point, we decide that we’re ready to change things one flaming Social Media post at a time and if someone is bothered by it then they’re part of the problem. At times, that kind of righteous anger is exactly what is called for. At other times it is simply another log that fuels the fire.  

 

Throughout this Lenten season we have been following the arc of Kathy Escobar’s book, Turning over Tables: A Lenten Call for Disrupting Power. In addition to a weekly gathering of those who are reading Escobar’s daily reflections, we have been studying and using the biblical texts that the book’s publisher, Westminster/John Knox Press, has developed to accompany the book. Hence, we have the six weekly themes that Escobar gives us in her book as our roadmap for this Lenten season. 

Our approach to last week’s theme, “Disrupt,” raised a lot of questions. The text that the publisher’s material provided was Luke 3:10-14, the story of John the Baptizer, telling the crowd to disrupt by sharing their food and clothing, then prohibiting tax collectors and soldiers from exploiting their power to oppress others. I don’t know about you, but I expected something a lot more dramatic – after all, our theme is “turning over tables!” But I suspect the crowd, the tax collectors, and the soldiers might have expected something more dramatic from John when they asked, “What should we do?” After all, John had no qualms about speaking truth to power and even lost his life for taking on Herod directly. 

 

If I were scheming this season around our six themes, I would have chosen to read the story of Jesus turning over tables for the week of “disrupt.” Part of my Lenten discipline has been to lean into the texts that the publisher provided, instead of doing my own thing (which is my wont.) And that has been a gift, especially this week. It helped me to notice that, long before Jesus turned over tables, he disrupted oppressive systems by sitting at tables with “the wrong crowd.” It shows that sometimes setting a table is more disruptive than flipping one. How powerful is that? It echoes everyone’s least favorite line from the 23^rd Psalm, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.” It echoes the Proverb, “A soft answer turns away wrath.” It echoes that great story about Elisha in II Kings 6, when God blinded the enemy army and they wandered right into Israel’s stronghold. The king asked Elisha, “Can I strike them?” and he said, “No. Set food and water before them so that they may eat and drink, and let them go back to their master.” And it is like Jesus’ teachings, echoed in Paul’s writings, the if our enemy is hungry, we feed them. That’s disruption. 

 

Setting a table does not feel as immediately effective or anger-satisfying as flipping a table. And many of us do not express our anger because we are in a privileged place where the injustice that offends us does not directly harm us.  Anger is a real and genuine human emotion, but I do think, however, that we often overestimate our capacity for clear-thinking and self-control when we are angry. John Lewis and other Civil Rights advocates of the 1960’s followed the principle that, until we have cleansed ourselves of hate and are motivated by love for our neighbor, our anger will not achieve God’s purpose, because we will become no different our enemy. I think that is the primary lesson that most Christian Nationalists are ignoring with their chest-thumping cheers for violence. We cannot ignore anger or underestimate its destructive power. Our Lenten journey is calling us not to resort to quietism or to violence, but to disrupt unjust systems with truth and unanticipated love. 

 

With you on this journey,

Mark of St. Mark

Luminosity and Witness

 Friends, 

I returned this week from spending some time in Florida, first visiting my brothers and then attending a “Luminosity” conference in Orlando. (One special treat from the conference is that I was able to visit my Seminary roommate and his spouse, also a friend in Seminary, whose wedding I was part of. What a gift it is to be able to re-connect with friends after almost 40 years, seven children, and three grandchildren.) 

 

The conference was interesting, informative, and refreshing. Our last Plenary Speaker was Dr. Eric Barreto, a New Testament professor from Princeton Seminary, who began his presentation by saying something like, “I’m tired of people tell the story about a church that is losing, failing, and falling apart.” He went on to say that our narrative is a different narrative and demonstrated through the stories in the book of Acts how God is active in the world in ways that defy our definitions of success or failure. I had a hard time focusing on the next thing he would say, because everything he said set me off into an imaginative, learning conversation with the Scriptures. One moment, God comes into the human story with healing, the next with a table that welcomes the outcast, another moment with a clarifying story or enigmatic parable, another with bread, another calming a storm, raising the dead, giving an aged couple a child, teaching the centrality of love, and so on. The sheer multiplicity of ways that God works – often surprising and unexpected – fills me with humility when I consider what we are up to here at St. Mark. 

 

Think of our Session, for example. According to the Book of Order of the Presbyterian Church, our Session is a collection of eighteen elders, who have been elected by the congregation to work together to fulfill this mission: “The Session shall have responsibility for governing the congregation and guiding its witness to the sovereign activity of God in the world, so that the congregation is and becomes a community of faith, hope, love, and witness.” Notice the part that I have italicized. Our elders guide us as we point to what God is doing in the world, just as the Scriptures point to what God was doing in their day. We get to ask, “In what way is God calming the storm of our day?” “Where is God offering healing?” “Where is the table being widened?” “What has expired that will be raised to new life?” And most importantly, we ask, “How is God doing a new thing among us, surpassing our imaginations?” Even though so many of our energies are given to routine and necessary things like worship-planning and tree-pruning, even those activities take on new life when we remember that God is not dead, sleeping, retired, or bored with loving creation. 

 

So, that’s a taste of the “streams of consciousness” that our speakers evoked in me during the Luminosity conference. There were many more, but it will take me some time to organize them in my head before I can share them coherently. 

 

In the meantime, here we are in the midst of our Lenten theme, “Turning over Tables,” which I have found compelling. I hope you have, too. And thank you for providing such a kind welcome to Kate Forer, our guest preacher last weekend. I was able to watch the services and know that you heard a fabulous sermon. I’m glad Kate is such a friend of St. Mark.

 

See you in worship,

Mark of St. Mark